A few nights ago, my fiance and I decided to make dinner together! He started prepping the meat, and true to form, I stepped in to make the side dishes and add some finishing touches! We moved in sync, laughed out loud and spoke of our future together… It was the start of a wonderful evening!
Out of nowhere I became especially hungry, and started to nibble on a little bit of everything. I caught Keem’s
judging eye a few times, but I didn’t pay it much attention. It wasn’t until I popped open a bag of popcorn, that he became a bit tense and told me what was on his mind… “You know, I can’t stand it when you eat while we cook”. This caught me totally off guard, and feeling attacked I replied with something very unfair. After a few exchanges, I rolled my eyes, stuffed the popcorn into the cabinet, and we went back to cooking…in silence.
Once everything was ready, we placed our respective dishes on the table. We locked eyes, and before I had a chance to say a word, Keem grabbed my hand and said “Let’s pray over the food. will you bow with me?” I shook my head in agreement, and on our knees Keem prayed over everything, but the food! He prayed over our relationship, our future marriage, our understanding of each other, and his role as a husband. Tears streamed down my face, my mascara stained the carpet. I was completely and utterly overwhelmed! And it was on that dining room floor that God met us, and humbled us with His presence!
After the prayer, and after a very long embrace, Keem and I spoke about what happened. Turns out he really just wanted us to enjoy the meal together, and was bothered that I was “digging in” before we could even sit at the table. Made almost too much sense, especially since I made it very clear that eating dinner together is important to me. Ha! It was a miscommunication that may not have been resolved so quickly had we not taken a moment to refocus in prayer.
What was intended to cause discord, God turned it and used it to strengthened our relationship, not only with each other but more importantly with Him! Keeping God first, is more that a catchy hash-tag; It is an absolutely vital component needed to lay a SOLID (unmovable) foundation for a Godly and fruitful relationship! And it has to come from both parties involved.
Relationships aren’t always going to be “cookies and cream”! We will disagree, we will roll our eyes, but with God we are able to navigate through those not-so-sweet moments and come out with a better understanding of each other. It is most certainly a process, but through it we are determined to come out even stronger!
I’m getting married in 49 days!!
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Oh I loved this post. I too have a husband who sends a judgey (ok I know that’s not a word but I had to be clear) glare when I nibble before we officially dig into the meal. We have been together 28 years now and married 20 of those so I agree with you that putting God first and not sweating the small stuff is so important. I pray for a healthy happy and always and forever kind of love for the two of you.
Thank you @Dvyndva! And thank you for those words of life xxoo