A few nights ago, I asked Keem to pick up some water from the grocery store on his way home from work! Everything was great! We laughed on the phone, and I anxiously waited for him to come home to me <3! When he came through the door, I could tell something was bothering him. I happily greeted him, he kissed my forehead and set the table with the water and our dinner. We sat there in silence, and it was literally causing my pressure to rise. What was the problem? Was it me? What did I do?
I couldn’t take it any longer and as I began to ask him “Baby, what did I do to cause you to be so upset with me”, I could sense the Holy Spirit leading me to be still! In other words, He was letting me know to keep my mouth SHUT! This was a very difficult moment for me (like legit hard), but I managed to obey and I didn’t say a word.
Keem finished his meal, and excused himself from the table. I made my way to the bathroom to wash my face, and get ready for bed. As the face wash began to lather, Keem began to tell me that they moved everything at the grocery store, and the WATER was moved all the way to the back of the store! He expressed how frustrating it was to be in that store looking all over the place, when he intended to be in and out.
Can you believe that? Can you believe that his frustration had nothing to do with me? He wasn’t even mad or upset, he was simply frustrated with a situation for which he need “a moment”. If I had gone my way, and asked him “Why are you so upset with me” not only would I have been accusing him of being upset, I would have selfishly made it about me. The wording of the question, along with my agitated tone (Yes, I was bothered), would have made the whole situation worse.
Ladies, if you are married or in a serious relationship, do yourself a favor; take a moment to be silent and pray before you speak (especially during a conflict). It can literally change the entire tone of your relationship! Before you say what is on your mind, listen to that still voice and see what He is leading you to do. The enemy will do whatever it takes to cause confusion, and division in the lives of God’s people, (he is definitely attacking marriages), so we must be vigilant and heed the voice of the Lord! I know it is not easy! I am LEARNING every single day, and sometimes I get it horribly wrong! But thank God for His faithfulness, and for continuing to help me “restrain my lips”! I encourage you today; be wise, and allow Him to do the same for you!
-Reese