9 Timely Tips for the Fabulous Wife | #Marriedlife – Theresa D

Happy 9th Anniversary to us🎉

Last week Hubby and I celebrated 9 yrs of being joyfully married!! YASSSS! And over the past 9 years, your girl has learned countless lessons about what it truly means to be a “good and Godly” wife. Ain’t nothing perfect over here. I still don’t get it right every time. I am STILL GROWING, and I am so committed to doing the work, because it is work I WANT to do (read that again).

So today in honor of our 9th anniversary, I’m sharing my 9 of my top lessons, mixed with some of my top posts about marriage! The first 5 are tips that I’ve embraced, and the last 4 are posts detailing some of my lessons learned. What I know to be true, especially after hosting 2 of my well known “Fierce 5 Marriage Series”, you are NEVER done learning. So glean, grow and thrive in your life as a wife and in your marriage to the Glory of God!

5 Tips I’ve Learned to Embrace as a Fabulous Wife

1 Look good for your man… and not just for special occasions.

I have no idea how we got here. How the idea of “letting yourself go” after marriage became a normal… and even acceptable part of our “after the alter” life. Listen I understand being comfortable, but if that comfort is you sitting around looking busted, and unloved… then things need to change, sis. Now I’m not saying you have to be beat, and done up 24/7 (although I try to embrace this lifestyle as much as possible FOR MYSELF), but what I am saying is… Attract his gaze, take care of your body and appearance, drink your water and look good for your man. Check out my “Dump the Frump” series for more!

2. Laugh at yourself and laugh together, often

One thing about me is I LOVE to laugh. And when I tell you me and hubby be cuttin’ up… y’all we be CUTTIN’ UP! Usually quoting our favorite shows, and laughing at the randomness of our interactions (too many insider jokes)… but we have a good time over here! Our best moments are when we laugh in the midst of what I hear the saints calling “intense fellowship” (disagreements). Nothing lightens the mood like a good ole’ belly laugh because one of us mispronounced a word, or stumbled over a thought. I can’t explain it, but it helps us to move on quickly… because we’re so focused on the joy of the laughter, that our guards come all the way down and we can address the issue at hand with so much more peace and understanding. I do believe this is one of the many ways God shows His love to us. Learn to laugh at yourself, and laugh together often!

3 Prioritize Dating and Connecting (even if just for a few moments)

Like I shared on FB, a few weeks ago we attended our good friends’ 20th Anniversary vowel renewal and it was amazing. What was even more amazing was that we got away for the weekend BABY-FREE (shout out to our village🙌🏾)! What a time! Hubby and I are no strangers to dating. We’ve had what I’ve coined “D-day” once a week for a few years. Since becoming parents of 2, we’ve had to be more intentional, to ensure that we get our time in. It’s not always a weekend getaway. Sometimes it’s a rerun of our fave show with a bowl of ice cream, and one eye open because we’re both “yet holding on” (lol), and others times it’s a conversation over a morning cup of coffee before the kids wake up. But it is ALWAYS a time for us to connect and just enjoy each others’ company. It’s IMPORTANT!

4. Prioritize sexual intimacy in your marriage

I know this goes hand-in-hand with #3, but this is so important that I felt it needed it’s own space. I can’t tell you how many wives I’ve spoken to who are okay with not being sexually intimate with their husband. Now I’m not talking to the world, nor am I speaking of those with actual medical conditions. I’m speaking specifically to (well and able bodied) Married Women of GOD. Being sexually intimate with your husband is vital and biblical.

Now I will note that I believe the church has done a disservice to many of us as wives. Until recently, I’d NEVER heard a full-on biblical teaching for wives regard the topic of sexual intimacy. Yes, I’ve heard the occasional and well placed “don’t deny your husband” in sermons. But a full and thorough teaching… NEVER.

And this is why I am too hyped to share this lesson with you! I encourage each of you to watch this absolutely beautiful teaching from Lorri Johnson. I cannot even put into words how thoroughly this woman has laid out this biblical truth for us as wives! Whew! Watch with an open heart, and glean ALL that God has for you from this overflowing well of wisdom in this woman of God! As she so eloquently put it, “you are the only woman who can satisfy his needs in this way”, so learn and get to satisfying lol!

5 Keep Jesus at the center of It all!

The MOST important thing you can do in your marriage! This helps you to apologize quickly, keep short accounts, work through intense conversations and all the things. FOR REAL! Jesus is our STRONG TOWER, and a life and marriage built on the FIRM FOUNDATION of JESUS CHRIST, will never fall! Glory!

Okay, now 4 Posts to encourage the Fabulous Wife!

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