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Have you found yourself trying to “keep up” with everyone and everything in your life as a mom? Whether consciously or subconsciously… you might have even convinced yourself that you’re not doing enough… or need to do/be more to prove your value as a mom, a wife and a woman?
Well I’ve been thinking a lot about this lately, as I’ve had to shatter some pretty limiting and toxic thinking over the past few years regarding my motherhood… and I hop today’s “Car Chat” encourages you to do the same!
Today… we’re chatting about our “capacity”! Click below for my thoughts and encouragement!
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Actually make the time to pour in to yourself. You “make the time” by taking a real look at your current schedules (plural because you have multiple schedules when you consider your spouse and your kids), identifying “pockets of time” (or a moment to get away on days off, early mornings, during nap time…etc), and then scheduling the time for yourself (actually writing it down is a game changer). I am a firm believer inSCHEDULING time for myself and embracing the “mini moments” to fill my cup spiritually, emotionally, physically, mentally and relationally.Spending time with Jesus, therapy, sun filled walks, sitting in silence in the car, daily affirmation using God’s word, lunch with friends, doing whatever makes you look and feel your best (my fave)…etc. It all counts! Whether 30 minutes, or a full weekend… Prioritize pouring into yourself!
2. Identify your own specific needs.
From childcare, to home schooling… being a working mom, mompreneur, corporate mom or SAHM… to Hiring a chef, or a house keeper, or investing in the equipment to handle it yourself… get super clear about what you need and findyour OWN FLOW! All schedules, routines, systems and lifestyles ARE NOT created equal. One size DOES NOT fit all. So you must get super clear about what you need. When you’re doing what’s best for you and your family, and let go of the need for approval from others… chiiii…. that’s freedom!
3. Ask for and accept support!
The more I do this work the more I realize that most moms feels overwhelmed and lack confidence as moms because they are trying to do it all by themselves. And sadly so many moms say that even with their best efforts, they feel like they’re falling short. Momma, let me free you with this NEWSFLASH… there’s no special reward or extra stimulus check coming because you’re trying to DO IT ALL BY YOURSELF! Running yourself into the ground, is played out. Believe me I speak from experience… Ask for support, accept it and allow those trusted loved ones (family, friends and YOUR HUSBAND) to pour into your life!
When you prioritize yourself as a mom, you show up more confidently, present and grounded as a mom, in your marriage, in your home and career! All the areas that matter most to you are impacted by how you care for yourself. So, take care… and prioritize yourself!
It’s been on my heart, so I have to ask…
Are you overwhelmed?
Are you long overdue and in desperate need of some “me time“? Are you struggling to “find the time” for yourself with all the “demands” on your plate as a mom a wife, and in your career/business? Do feel like you don’t have the help or supportyou need to care for yourself? You know you need some serious self care, and you’re ready to take radical action to prioritize yourself, and finally “fill your cup”?
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As much as I enjoy “sleeping in” I know that I have to wake up first. My day is so much better when I do, even if it’s just for 15 mins to gather myself as I prepare for my day. And I’m not always up “doing” something. Most mornings I’m up praying and just enjoying the moments of stillness before the crazy starts… it can get very “Wild Wild West-ish” over here real fast and those moments help me to “be ye ready” lol.
2. Create a mommy schedule.
Having a mommy schedule has transformed my life! I’ve talked a great deal about my mom schedule (click here for the deets) and this has given my daya sense of Rhythm. From when we wake up to when we go to sleep, for the past year I’ve been following a schedule with a set of routines that have helped me tremendously. Trust me, knowing what comes next, creates flow… and you’ll find that you have more time now that you’ve been intentional about what you do with it!
3. Have a routine for those every day activities.
So let’s break this down real quick… Your schedule helps guide you to know what to do, the routine is how you do it. For example, I know that every night Dream needs to sleep, so we created a bed timeroutine. Our routine is super simple… bath, moisturize hair, brush teeth, cuddles, turn on bed time musicand we end in our rocking chair til sis is knocked out. The routine doesn’t have to be extensive, it just needs to work for you and your family!
4. Get outside.
I didn’t realize how much I came to rely on going out for my long 3 miles walks with Dream until this winter. It was rough. I was so used to being outside for the fresh air and the workout, and I not being able to get outside due to the weather… I didn’t like it. Add that on top of the already restrictive access to so many places because of the pandemic… it was a lot. I knew that I needed to do something for my sanity! So I decided to do mommy and me drives. Most often I would set out to take a drive when I knew I had a mobile pickup at Target or Wegmans! It was mostly for me, and it helped every time we took off! And on the days when I couldn’t go out for a full walk or drive, I’d often step outside for a few deep breaths. Everyday I make it a point to get outside…even if just for a few moments. And now that the weather is warmer, and Dream is older we go out twice a day! Our community has a playground so in the mornings we walk for mommy, and after nap time we get outside for playtime!
5. Screen free activities!
Now don’t get me wrong we watch circle time and other educational shows… some days more than others because mommy needs her time… but admittedly I find that my day with Dream is so much better when I intentionally engage her with non-screen activities. So I went to Pinterest and found some pretty dope toddler activities! We color, we read, we play games to review letters, numbers, shapes and colors, we play with building blocks, we dance, we sing… and so much more. Having a catalog of activities to use throughout the day has been so good for us and the flow of our day!
6 Reset the room.
Being home with a toddler can get messy! I remember one day it looked like a tornado flew through my house. Stuff was everywhere. And I said “well I have a toddler, so it just is what it is”. But I realized I was feeling this tightness in my chest every time I walked into those spaces… well because it was a mess! That’s when it hit me, this messy mom life ain’t for me if I can help it! I want my house to be in order, as much as possible, and I’ve been “resetting the room” ever since. Basically all you’re doing is cleaning as you go or putting things back in place once you’re done in that particular space in your home. It started with me cleaning and putting toys away, and now that Dream is older she’s been helping me out! I also have learned to layer my tasks… so while Dream is eating lunch I’ll reset the kitchen… or if we’re in her room, I’ll put things back in her closet… etc. You get the point.
7. Make time for yourself EVERYDAY!
Finding a few moments just for me…everyday… has become nonnegotiable, and it is always what I need, when I need it! Making time for yourself doesn’t have to be anything major, You don’t even have to “do” anything… it may just be a moment to reflect, to sit, to rest.
For me I’ve recently decided that at least 1 time every week I’m going to nap when Dream naps… and on the nights when hubby is on bed time duty I’ve scheduled “Reese time”. Yes, on my calendar! This week I’m giving myself a pedicure and I have my fave show to catch up on. Everyday in this season Dream takes a nap, so for at least 15 mins of her nap hour I try to just reset, practice gratitude, stare at a wall, stare out the window… justintentional stillness.
Making time for yourself is a deeply personal and requires that yo be intentional Do whatever works for you but find a way to do it daily!
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