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3 Unexpected Ways to Self Care | #3 Changed My Life

Since becoming a mom, I realized just how valuable it is for me to prioritize what I need  to fill MY cup, so that I am are able to pour into my family and show up in the areas that matter most to me (my definition of self care). In my latest video “The hard Seasons of Mom Life“, I shared how this year has been one of the most difficult seasons of my life. Like for real, FOR REAL!  And with that  I’ve realized just how deep this practice of self care actual goes to help me in the midst of those most trying seasons of motherhood and life! If you know me you know I love my bi-weekly massages, Selfish Sundays, and alone time in the morning before my family wakes up…. but this year there have been 3 unexpected ways that I’ve been caring for myself that have helped me to remain in a place of victory during the storms of life.  #3 a really did me in!

1. Preparation

Yes, you read that correctly, Preparation has become a form of self care for me. With so many moving parts to my day, week, month… I found that preparation gives me the peace of mind that I’ve been missing, especially when all those parts are moving at the same time.  One excellent example of this is clothes prep. Now I know this is not anything new, but it is for me. I am used to preparing the night before for the next day. But I really kicked things into high gear when I started to prepare for the week. It started with Dream’s outfits for the week. From her school clothes to her pjs, everything was laid out for the week. Then I added in my clothes for the week, from lounge wear to what I would wear to the gym… everything was set so I could “grab and go”!

Hubby was already taken care of. I don’t lay anything out for him, but I do ensure that his work clothes are washed, folded and ready for the week. I’m telling you… this has been a game changer. I’m not perfect by any means, and some mornings are still very much so a circus (I have a very active toddler on my hands), but this has added to my peace of mind and now I am looking at how I can add this level of preparedness to other areas of my life. How about you?

2. Spending intentional time with God, in His Word and in Worship

As a Believer (Jesus Christ Follower), I know this is something I need to do to live a life pleasing to God.  but if I’m being honest, it  wasn’t until I became a mom that I realized just how much my sanity depended on it. Yes… my sanity… mental health… peace of mind. I’m not talking about a quick Bible plan here and there, I mean a deep dive into the truths of His word,  and discovering how it applies to my life as a wife and mom.

Most recently,  Hebrews 6:10 spoke new life into me and encouraged me to the point of tears…

For God, the Faithful One, is not unfair. How can he forget the beautiful work you have done for him? He remembers the love you demonstrate as you continually serve his beloved ones for the glory of his name. (Hebrews 6:10 TPT)

Being a mom is one of the absolute best things in the world… it is also the most difficult job I’ve ever been trusted with. So when I think of all of the mundane tasks throughout my day as a stay at home wife and mom, it can seem as though so much of what I do goes unnoticed.

When I saw this verse and really allowed God to open my heart to receive it… I understood that He sees it all.  As I continually serve his beloved ones (my husband and children), not one thing I do goes unnoticed or without eternal reward. Add in Matthew 11:28 TPT… Are you weary, carrying a heavy burden? Come to me. I will refresh your life, for I am your oasis”... and it’s just the reminder I need to breathe, reset, and refocus during those difficult moments.

Worship and gratitude have also proven to be excellent ways to self care. Crazy how taking my focus and attention off of myself, and instead focusing on the goodness of God, actually helps me to feel better and see more clearly.  From attending church regularly, to my weekly gratitude walks, to filling my home with worship throughout the day… the impact this has on my well being and peace of mind is unmatched!

3. Letting go of things that don’t align with who GOD is calling me to be

Read that again. I’ve always prided myself in letting go of things that don’t align with the woman I wanted to be… but this year, God interrupted my entire life and help me to see that I needed to focus on become the woman HE is calling me to be. And let me tell you, the two are not  the same.

The woman I wanted to be was someone who was perfect, liked, celebrated, sought after, successful, embracing all things easy and beautiful and avoiding all things challenging. Crazy that I seriously lived my life by these standards, only to realize it was leading me down a path of superficial relevance full of unrealistic expectations, misaligned relationships, and people pleasing. And quite frankly there wasn’t much peace, joy or even growth there. Just feeling of inadequacy and piles of disappointment. 

The woman God is calling me to be  is loved, saved by grace, significant, a woman of gratitude living for an audience of One, joy filled and victorious in the midst of life challenges, abounding in the truth of His Word, and enjoying the abundance of this thing called life as I obey and abide in Him… as a wife, mom, and woman.

Really putting God first isn’t popular or trendy. There’s no “people pleasing” or “perfection” on this road. My relationships have changed (yes, I’ve had to mourn the loss of some friendships), old habits have had to die (most of which I thought defined me… my GOD),  and I’ve faced challenges that I wouldn’t want anyone else to endure!   But who I am becoming as a result of my obedience, and the life God has blessed me to experience,  is greater than I can ask think or even imagine! So yea. I’d call that self care!

 

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Confident Mom · encouragement · Mommy Life

The Hard Seasons of (mom/wife) Life!

Hey Momma, Let’s get right to it, because I can feel in my spirit that I’m not the only one going through some pretty challenging things in this season.  If you’ve ever questioned God about why your life is so hard at times… in the midst of your earnest efforts to live BOLDLY for Him… this is for YOU!

Reference James 1:2-4

 

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encouragement · Married Life · Married Moms

7 Years Later | Real Secrets for a Thriving Millennial Marriage!

Today Hubby and I Celebrate our 7th Wedding Anniversary and what an amazing journey it has been so far! From purchasing our first home together, become first time parents, multiple career transitions, the passing of loved ones, overcoming and working through disagreements, watching God provide abundantly during a pandemic, overcoming illnesses,  learning how to raise a toddler… and so so so much love, joy and laughter in the midst of it all… the growth has been unmatched and our marriage is stronger because of it all!

But I have to take a moment to share the real secrets behind our thriving marriage, something that so many people talk about and perhaps seldom actually rely on! Watch my Reflection video, and be sure to check out 7 biblical principles I live by as a wife in my marriage!

And as always…. be sure to share with someone who needs it!

 

7 Biblical Principles I live by in my Marriage:

1 Always check yourself first before expecting God to check your spouse (Matthew 7:1-3)

2 Listen more than you speak (James 1:19)

3 Only God can change your spouse (Proverbs 21:1)

4. Pray about everything… EVERYTHING (Philippians 4:6)

5 Withholding sex as strategy is not of God (1 Corinthians 7:4)

6  Communicate. Apologize. Forgive (James 5:16. Ephesians 4:31-32)

7 MY husband is not my enemy (Ephesians 6:12-13)

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encouragement · Mommy Life

If You’ve Ever Doubted Yourself as A Mom, This is for You!

That feeling of “am I the right mom for this”, crosses my mind more often than I’d like to admit.

If you’re a mom, I’m sure that you can agree that The days are long, and the tantrums often seem just as great as the triumphs. But it is in those moments,  that I’ve learned to press in even more to the ever-loving arm of my Savior and the TRUTH of His Word! Prayers, weeping and my full surrender merge to help me see more clearly that all that is happening in my life is happening FOR ME not TO ME.

I am the mom that my little one needs! Being her momma is a major part of my divine assignment, and when I feel weak… HE Is STRONG! He is my strength, my Strong Tower… my fortress… a very present help ALWAYS! My confidence as a mom, comes directly from Him!

So with this revelation in mind, and my heart fully opened to receive, that Lord spoke this word to me and I just knew I needed to share this with you!

 

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